We've heard of this word numerous times, until some take it for granted, abuse it and pretend nothing has happened. It's something so precious, so delicate and yet so easily lost in our daily routines thanks to lethargy, insecurity and even wrong choices of our making.
I know of this company which emphasizes on safety driving so much that a peer has to evaluate a person's driving skills, observance of traffic laws and habits. During the test, the incumbent practices all the safety aspect of it, drives with two hands and within speed limits. Upon confirmation that he has passed the evaluation, the bad habits comes back instantly - speeding, ignoring traffic lights changes and you name it, every other offence on the road he does. What's good in living a life of acting and pretence?
I believe that God has blessed us with our spouses so we can be comfortable with them, let our hair down on all occasions and I mean all occasions. It's not like "I don't feel like it today, I'm too tired." or pretend to be nice when we're with our spouse and do otherwise behind her. To me it should come naturally. I shouldn't even use "should" - it is second nature to us.
Let's make out daily walk consistent in unrelentless pursuit of integrity true to our own self and ability. We only need to answer to our spouse other than God. It's a worthwhile journey where we can leave a legacy of being true and honest to our other half. That would be incredible for our kids to emulate.
Monday, April 26, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Forgiveness Part II
I listened to a preacher the other day, he spoke of a woman with bad arthritis till her fingers were crooked, clumped together and hadn't forgiven her sister for something that happened 30 years back. She is 70 years old and her sister has since passed away.
She came up to the preacher and he asked if she was willing to forgive her sister and let go of the past as it's no longer supporting her and yet hurting her. She said yes.
As she raised her hands to receive that prayer of forgiveness and blessing, the preacher witnessed something bizarre. A miracle took place. As she cried and asked for forgiveness, her fingers straightened up and were well again. She had never felt that peace before.
The same it is with our spouses. At times we feel so frustrated and sometimes angry at our spouses for some differences in thoughts. And we allow that to grow in us until one day it's released... with such intensity that shocks our other half. All hell breaks loose because of some unforgiving past which even our spouse knows nothing off. Why? Why are we harbouring such feelings? Is it edifying or crippling us?
Don't let the sun go down on us. Forgive and apologize even if we're not in the wrong. Try that today, it'll do wonders to our relationship.
P/s : I co-wrote this with my wife.
She came up to the preacher and he asked if she was willing to forgive her sister and let go of the past as it's no longer supporting her and yet hurting her. She said yes.
As she raised her hands to receive that prayer of forgiveness and blessing, the preacher witnessed something bizarre. A miracle took place. As she cried and asked for forgiveness, her fingers straightened up and were well again. She had never felt that peace before.
The same it is with our spouses. At times we feel so frustrated and sometimes angry at our spouses for some differences in thoughts. And we allow that to grow in us until one day it's released... with such intensity that shocks our other half. All hell breaks loose because of some unforgiving past which even our spouse knows nothing off. Why? Why are we harbouring such feelings? Is it edifying or crippling us?
Don't let the sun go down on us. Forgive and apologize even if we're not in the wrong. Try that today, it'll do wonders to our relationship.
P/s : I co-wrote this with my wife.
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