We've heard of this word numerous times, until some take it for granted, abuse it and pretend nothing has happened. It's something so precious, so delicate and yet so easily lost in our daily routines thanks to lethargy, insecurity and even wrong choices of our making.
I know of this company which emphasizes on safety driving so much that a peer has to evaluate a person's driving skills, observance of traffic laws and habits. During the test, the incumbent practices all the safety aspect of it, drives with two hands and within speed limits. Upon confirmation that he has passed the evaluation, the bad habits comes back instantly - speeding, ignoring traffic lights changes and you name it, every other offence on the road he does. What's good in living a life of acting and pretence?
I believe that God has blessed us with our spouses so we can be comfortable with them, let our hair down on all occasions and I mean all occasions. It's not like "I don't feel like it today, I'm too tired." or pretend to be nice when we're with our spouse and do otherwise behind her. To me it should come naturally. I shouldn't even use "should" - it is second nature to us.
Let's make out daily walk consistent in unrelentless pursuit of integrity true to our own self and ability. We only need to answer to our spouse other than God. It's a worthwhile journey where we can leave a legacy of being true and honest to our other half. That would be incredible for our kids to emulate.
Showing posts with label honest. Show all posts
Showing posts with label honest. Show all posts
Monday, April 26, 2010
Friday, January 1, 2010
Learning from Kids
What? You gotta be kidding me. I've had so many experiences and you expect me to learn something about loving from kids? Absolutely!
Three areas that I'd like to highlight we can learn from them;
1) Faith
As a child (whom I was once before), I'd look up to my parents not just for approval but even for guidance in the way I behaved, spoke and lived my life. How can this be applied to my relationship? The spouse that you chose (whom I believe is your best friend of life) will surely open up and offer advices on becoming a better person to them and the family. Many a times, we feel as if we're being run down but let's take it in the right manner - if our spouse can't be frank and honest with us, who can? So trust and have faith that your spouse wants the best for you and would be delighted to support you throughout making some positive adjustments.
2) Energy
Do you ever wonder where your kid/someone else's kid's energy come from? It's like boundless and never seems to stop once their excitement is raised. It's true we will drown in our weariness after a hard day’s work - where can I find that extra energy to communicate constructively with my spouse? Our bodies are magnificent creation - the more we practice using them, the better we become. Stretch your minds a little, your body has the capacity to go further (even as I'm writing this, my eyelids are almost shutting down on me), give of your best to your spouse daily. You never know one kind word can create so much encouragement for them.
You're in control of your mind and body, not the reverse. You can do it, try it.
3) Risk taking
Certainly as long as it's not life and death do it, I'd advocate that to my kids. Kids try a lot of stuff, their inquisitive nature makes them unique and their learning process is improved dramatically with risk taking. Sometimes, we're so concerned with what our spouses may think of us. I've often told the younger ones - as long as it doesn't harm anyone, do it! Take risk with your spouse to attempt some fun, exciting things together which can produce the adrenalin rush. It's been confirmed via research that it bonds the couple more after these activities. By saying this, I'm not referring to extreme sports but those which both have not tried and are willing to give a go. As long as it doesn't harm anyone - DO IT!
"To love what you do and feel that it matters - how could anything be more fun?"
Three areas that I'd like to highlight we can learn from them;
1) Faith
As a child (whom I was once before), I'd look up to my parents not just for approval but even for guidance in the way I behaved, spoke and lived my life. How can this be applied to my relationship? The spouse that you chose (whom I believe is your best friend of life) will surely open up and offer advices on becoming a better person to them and the family. Many a times, we feel as if we're being run down but let's take it in the right manner - if our spouse can't be frank and honest with us, who can? So trust and have faith that your spouse wants the best for you and would be delighted to support you throughout making some positive adjustments.
2) Energy
Do you ever wonder where your kid/someone else's kid's energy come from? It's like boundless and never seems to stop once their excitement is raised. It's true we will drown in our weariness after a hard day’s work - where can I find that extra energy to communicate constructively with my spouse? Our bodies are magnificent creation - the more we practice using them, the better we become. Stretch your minds a little, your body has the capacity to go further (even as I'm writing this, my eyelids are almost shutting down on me), give of your best to your spouse daily. You never know one kind word can create so much encouragement for them.
You're in control of your mind and body, not the reverse. You can do it, try it.
3) Risk taking
Certainly as long as it's not life and death do it, I'd advocate that to my kids. Kids try a lot of stuff, their inquisitive nature makes them unique and their learning process is improved dramatically with risk taking. Sometimes, we're so concerned with what our spouses may think of us. I've often told the younger ones - as long as it doesn't harm anyone, do it! Take risk with your spouse to attempt some fun, exciting things together which can produce the adrenalin rush. It's been confirmed via research that it bonds the couple more after these activities. By saying this, I'm not referring to extreme sports but those which both have not tried and are willing to give a go. As long as it doesn't harm anyone - DO IT!
"To love what you do and feel that it matters - how could anything be more fun?"
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)