Dedicated Moments

I like observing people especially couples during their mealtimes, there's so much to learn from anyone that comes my way. No, I don't intrude in their private lives nor their conversations but I observe their body language, their body signals which I believe is the best gauge of the current situation.

What I'm sharing here is very straightforward. I am a firm believer of taking that additional time of spending that quality moment with my other half. We've been so used to watching TV programmes where the man just reads the newspaper during mealtimes as if oblivious of their partners sitting with them (I'm guilty of that sometimes) when at that table, the most intimate of sharing's can take place regardless of whether it's the happenings of the day, the wishes, hurts etc.

In every relationship, communication is essential. Sure some people may have other ways of doing it. In my work, I feel the best way to get into my customer's world is via a drink (not necessarily beer) or a simple meal. So if I can bring this to my relationship, I'm sure it's OK right to get into my spouse's world. It's more than OK, it's a must!

Sure all of us are busy in our own world, but that quality time communicating and looking into the eye of your spouse during a meal will be something worthwhile and have that lasting effect in this journey. In this 'instant gratifying' world, these quality time & moments is what you'll treasure in your relationship. Try it.

INTEGRITY

We've heard of this word numerous times, until some take it for granted, abuse it and pretend nothing has happened. It's something so precious, so delicate and yet so easily lost in our daily routines thanks to lethargy, insecurity and even wrong choices of our making.

I know of this company which emphasizes on safety driving so much that a peer has to evaluate a person's driving skills, observance of traffic laws and habits. During the test, the incumbent practices all the safety aspect of it, drives with two hands and within speed limits. Upon confirmation that he has passed the evaluation, the bad habits comes back instantly - speeding, ignoring traffic lights changes and you name it, every other offence on the road he does. What's good in living a life of acting and pretence?

I believe that God has blessed us with our spouses so we can be comfortable with them, let our hair down on all occasions and I mean all occasions. It's not like "I don't feel like it today, I'm too tired." or pretend to be nice when we're with our spouse and do otherwise behind her. To me it should come naturally. I shouldn't even use "should" - it is second nature to us.

Let's make out daily walk consistent in unrelentless pursuit of integrity true to our own self and ability. We only need to answer to our spouse other than God. It's a worthwhile journey where we can leave a legacy of being true and honest to our other half. That would be incredible for our kids to emulate.