May seem weird why this subject is included right? Read along, I'm sure you'll agree with me this is one of the key steps in our development years that can manifest itself in later years.
A friend of mine said she was very glad to see no favoritism in her father in law towards his 3 sons. The 3 sons, having families of their own loved each other dearly and have very little misunderstandings between them. This grandfather didn't display any favoritism towards the grandchildren too despite one of the sons not having any daughters. All of them get along so well including the daughter in laws.
No one likes to compare, right. I know of another friend who has a younger brother who gets everything he wants even when he's not mature enough to have it...to the dissatisfaction of the sister. Over the years living under this "favoritism" has made here bitter towards her brother. Even after marriage, she never gave in to the brother as a form of vendetta. This took a long time and was painful to overcome.
In our married relationship - our upbringing can pose a threat to it and if not checked it can ruin a happy family. We're here to build this journey today and tomorrow, so let it be our desire to be fair to all in the family.
Your kids will love you and appreciate you for this.
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Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Friday, December 18, 2009
Perserverence Part II
This is in reference to the post on Nov 11.
Let's imagine we're running a long distance race (21 km) instead of a marathon (42 km, in order to get to the finish line won't we have to push ourselves and tell our body and mind that we can do it? We will sum up the energy and courage to complete the race trying to finish within a certain number or timing. When we achieve that, we feel elated and tell ourselves "I've done it, YES!" Certainly that involves plenty of time, dedicated practice, pain and courage.
Let's put that into our marriages context - isn't this a race too that we want to run till the end? But why is it that most couples take the easy way out of breaking up upon onset of few misunderstanding? Instead of ironing out the differences, we provoke and hurt each other further, eventually imploding within ourselves and forget about how we actually took time to build the strong foundation of togetherness before. Goals built together seem so distant now and eventually falls apart.
I'm sure all of us love our other half just as ourselves. Let's use that time, dedicated practice, pain and courage to see & work out to the completion of this wonderful journey we were committed to initially.
Let's imagine we're running a long distance race (21 km) instead of a marathon (42 km, in order to get to the finish line won't we have to push ourselves and tell our body and mind that we can do it? We will sum up the energy and courage to complete the race trying to finish within a certain number or timing. When we achieve that, we feel elated and tell ourselves "I've done it, YES!" Certainly that involves plenty of time, dedicated practice, pain and courage.
Let's put that into our marriages context - isn't this a race too that we want to run till the end? But why is it that most couples take the easy way out of breaking up upon onset of few misunderstanding? Instead of ironing out the differences, we provoke and hurt each other further, eventually imploding within ourselves and forget about how we actually took time to build the strong foundation of togetherness before. Goals built together seem so distant now and eventually falls apart.
I'm sure all of us love our other half just as ourselves. Let's use that time, dedicated practice, pain and courage to see & work out to the completion of this wonderful journey we were committed to initially.
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